Singularity is the point at which everything we experience arises from and ultimately falls back into. Scientists believe it is where consciousness resides.
When the future comes, it does so because it is directly related to how we focus our minds. Likewise, the past only exists as a memory. We cannot visit what happened 40 seconds ago, neither can we visit what happened years ago. All we can do is hold those things as memories in the present. The future only exists as an expectation. For instance, when we fire an arrow, we can only expect the arrow to hit the target, but as soon as we fire it, we cannot revisit the moment when the arrow hits the target, and neither can we revisit the moment we shot the arrow.
We are the catalysts, the factors that decide whether our minds realize something or not. The reality is, we can never isolate ourselves from the universe, because we form part of the equation, always. Life unfolds in the present. We dwell so much on the past or fret about what may or may not happen in the future. In order to have more control of our minds and lives, we need to find a balance. We need to step out of the current, then pause, and focus on just being. We need to be present. Living in the moment — aka mindfulness — is a state of active, intentional attention to the present.
When you are mindful, you realize that your thoughts do not define you. You just become an observer of your thoughts from time to time without interrupting them. Mindfulness involves identifying with yourself at the moment and accepting your thoughts the way they are.
Cultivating a habit of mindfulness of the present comes with an array of benefits. It reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, boosts the immune system, reduces chronic pain and helps people cope with cancer. By alleviating constant stress and spending a few minutes a day practicing mindfulness, we also lower the risk of heart disease. Mindful people are more exuberant, more secure and more empathetic.
They have high self-esteem and are more accommodating of their weaknesses. Practicing mindfulness in the present now reduces the kinds of reactivity that underlie stress, depression and attention problems. Mindful people can hear negative feedback and not feel threatened. They fight less with their co-workers and are less defensive. As a result of this, they have more successful lives both at home and at work. I want to come back here again. Often, we are so trapped in our thoughts of the past and the future that we forget to enjoy what is happening around us.
What we should be doing instead is to relish and enjoy whatever we are doing at present- what psychologists often refer to as savoring.
This could be while taking a shower, eating a pastry or talking to a client. Just relax and enjoy the moment. Meditation is a great way to practice being present and bringing awareness to your mind, body and emotions.
Creating a habit of meditation is an easy way to clear your mind, raise awareness and improve your mood daily. In an experiment, a number of subjects were told to take a few minutes each day to actively enjoy savour something- could be walking to the bus, drinking a cup of coffee, eating a meal. When they took the time to savour, they began to experience more happiness, joy and other positive emotions. Well, the answer is simple. Because most negative thoughts are about the past and the future.
Negative thoughts in their very nature- means thinking about the past and the future- but if you focus on the present- worry almost always melts away. Without doubt, the best way to live in the moment is to lose track of time. This occurs when you are so engrossed in a task, that you lose track of everything else.
But this concept has a paradox: how can you live in the moment if you are not even aware of that moment? The depth of being engaged absorbs you forcefully, hijacking your attention such that no distractions can penetrate. Hours can just pass without you realizing. The first condition is to set goals for yourself — goals that are challenging but attainable- something you have to pull all your resources together and stretch yourself to the limits.
This task should, however, match your ability level- not so hard that you feel stressed, and not too easy that you get bored. In short, it should just be enough to give you a challenge. To set the ideal stage, your goals need to be clearly set out so that you are always aware of your next step.
It could be surpassing the targets set for you at work, working hard towards a promotion or setting a record for yourself. You also need to set the task so that you receive immediate feedback; where your successes and failures are apparent. This will help you know where you went wrong so that you can adjust accordingly. A leader knows immediately when they have made a mistake; a marketer knows instantly when they have failed to reach their sales targets. As you focus your attention on your goals, self- consciousness fades away.
You feel as if your awareness merges with what you are doing. You feel a sense of personal satisfaction, and feel that your efforts are so rewarding that even though the task may be difficult, it feels effortless. There are two different types of time that govern the objective and subjective sides of people. When we say objective, we are referring to those people who use their heads and hands to solve problems. Subjective people, on the other hand, refer to those people who use their hearts and spirits to approach issues.
Objective people are governed by the first type of time also known as the triangle time or clock time. Subjective people are governed by the second type of time, also known as circle time or Kairos time. However, there is a certain group of people that use both, triangle time to define and set goals and objectives; and circle time to connect team members to their attitudes, dreams, and aspirations. Circle time is a great time to relax and get new energy as you focus on your next tasks. Time has been sold to us like a precious commodity. To me, this is a dumb idea.
The illusion of time is similar to the old idea that the earth is flat, and we seem to be absolutely ruled by this idea. To expect to solve significant issues with a traditional mind is short-sighted and only produces the same problems over and over again. Time should be used like a tool, one that we use to get things done, and put back on the store once we are done using it.
Time should be used to arrange our lives, innovate business and celebrate our successes. And how can we better manage the challenges in each time frame? The past can be a tricky time frame. In the past, you can find both sources of strength and sorrow, some memories that you cherish and others that discourage you. Why would you want to revisit the past? If you give the past the power to label you negatively in any way, then you can be held back. Complaining is draining. The past can cause us to lament missed opportunities, to feel labeled, or to fear change.
We can believe in change and embrace it. Considering the past with the intent to take action and grow as a result is powerful. The past holds power. If we look at the past deliberately to learn, change a behavior, or to take action, then the past can be a gift, too.
Choosing to take action to learn and grow from your experiences is always within your reach. The past can both hold and release power. But you need to re-think past. A friend of mine came to me several years after my wedding day and offered me a gift.
In Creativity, Inc. My goal is not to drive fear out completely, because fear is inevitable in high-stakes situations. What I want to do is loosen its grip on us. The future has been misunderstood and under attack lately.
Misunderstood because thinking about the future is often thought of as a distraction. But being distracted is being nowhere. Being in the future deliberately, however, can help you imagine what could be. The future holds possibility. The challenge with imagining is that you can imagine both a desirable future and anticipate a future where you might fail. Imagining failure and loss can make us anxious or worried. But uncertainty and change come hand in hand. In this sense, if nothing about our society changes for the next years, then the future is over years away.
But you can shape it with your actions. You can reinvent yourself and enjoy what you do and will do as long as you imagine a future and work towards it. The key is to remain flexible to change paths and alert for the unforeseen opportunities we might encounter. And the present is no different. With so much information overflow, it is increasingly harder to focus.